Sunday, February 5, 2012
Coming out of the closet. I'm not even sure if I was ever in there
Most gays have that coming out moment in life. You know where they finally have come to terms with their sexuality and embraced their new life. For many this is a life changing experience. It can be one of the hardest challenges that they face. And then there's me. I'm not sure if I ever really was in that imaginary place. This is a really strange feeling for me. I found myself as a lesbian at 25 years old having multiple relationships with men and one with a woman. You would think living in a small town and being what my girl friend liked to refer me as baby gay ( a term I found most offensive ) I would be scared to let my new feelings show. They didn't phase me a bit. I in some way feel cheated on my gay experience. Why should it have been so easy for me to tell and show everyone the new me? I felt like not a true gay for not going through that hardship of finding myself and coming to terms with it. My only guess is that when something feels so right and natural it's not hard to show off. This is who I am. This is who I'm proud to be. Now let me clarify not everyone was so comfortable with the new me. I have lost many friends and family members due to my new status but even with all that I truly believe that coming out for me was as easy as breathing. My hope for others is that of you struggle about who you are it will be hard but the end result is so much better. If you need help ask for it or if you're lucky enough like me that has a partner to hold your hand through it all then you will be just fine.
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You have never been afraid to express yourself and that is a huge blessing with a lot of responsibility. I don't know many people who are as comfortable with themselves as you are :) That is amazing! I'm just now getting to know myself....
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